『Art Of Photography』vol. 1 no. 1 「Take Your Mark」

Posted on December 30, 2009 commentaires

Modèle : Mark Songkran Scoles มาร์ค สงกรานต์ สโคลส
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KBS Gayo Daejun '09 - Special Stage I: In The Club


Après SHINee, qui prouvent qu'ils savent chanter 「Just Dance」 de Lady GaGa, KARA, sur 「Son Of A Gun」, et Girls' Generation, sur 「Rythm Nation」 de Janet Jackson, tentent de nous démontrer leur talent de danseuses. Un peu raide à notre avis (mais bon, c'est filmé avec les pieds)... Les 2PM sont toujours aussi gracieux sur 「Boom Boom Pow」 de Black Eyed Peas (heureusement ils déchirent leurs t-shirts !), mais s'en tirent finalement mieux que les Super Junior, catastrophiques... euh, ben en tout ! Par contre, le tour des chorégraphies de la fin est super sympa. Bravo Lip2Shot, on adore ton style chérie !
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Kim Heechul 김희철『Nylon』

Posted on December 08, 2009 commentaires

Ouh qu'il est beau !

Heechul des Super Junior pour『Nylon』, décembre 2009.


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KARA 카라 「Wanna」

Posted on November 22, 2009 commentaires

KARA 「Wanna」 (Korean Version), 2009.

KARA 「Wanna」 (Japanese Version), 2009.
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f(x) 에프엑스 「Chu~♡」

Posted on November 09, 2009 commentaires

f(x) 「Chu~♡」【츄~♡】- released on November 09, 2009.

Chorégraphie bondissante et super énergique (ah la jeunesse), looks comment dire ? Euh... c'est ça les jeunes, enfin bon, et rap butchy au programme. Yo !

f(x) 에프엑스
Official Website (South Korea): http://fx.smtown.com/
Official Website (Japan): http://www.fx-jp.jp/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fx.smtown

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2AM 투에이엠『Men's Health』

Posted on October 26, 2009 commentaires

2AM pour le『Men's Health』d'octobre 2009.



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Gene Kasidit จีน กษิดิศ 「Life Goes On」

Posted on October 15, 2009 commentaires

Gene Kasidit 「Life Goes On」 - extrait de『Affairs』sorti en novembre 2009 - Réalisé par Salinee Khemcharas.
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Super Junior-M 슈퍼주니어-M『Numéro』

Posted on October 08, 2009 commentaires

Dis donc tu viens plus aux soirées ?

Les Super Junior M s'amusent bien dans le『Numéro』d'octobre 2009 !

Il a l'air inquiet le chat.

Trips : Veuve Cliquot-jacuzzi (sans eau), cuir-collant (?!).
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Cory Quach 「True Gay Stories」

Posted on October 01, 2009 commentaires

Cory Quach (I'm From Houston, TX) 「True Gay Stories」 - posté le 1er octobre 2009.

Bon petit témoignage sur le racisme envers les asiatiques dans la communauté LGBT (américaine, mais c'est pratiquement pareil en France) trouvé sur la chaine YouTube de ImFromDriftwood via le groupe Facebook I'm Gay and I love Asian men! (Parce qu'on aime les garçons asiatiques!). Non, grâce à internet, vous n'êtes plus seuls !

Cory talks about racism even within the LGBT community.

www.imfromdriftwood.com Is a compilation of true stories by gay people from all over in an attempt to help LGBTQ teens feel not so alone. Please pass the link along to anyone who might benefit from, contribute to, or simply enjoy the site, stories and videos. Thanks!

“My name is Cory Quach and I’m from Houston, Texas. The story that I want to talk about isn’t so much a specific story, it’s more about my experience as an Asian-American male, growing up in the U.S. and my experience in the gay community and dating in general.

On a lot of occasions, I get a lot of backhanded compliments of how cute I am for an Asian guy. Or I have to be part white or mixed race or something like that, you know, because of the way that I look.

There was this one time I was on a gay dating site, if you can call it dating, but I kind of did this social experiment. I created a profile and I posted my photos and a bio, and in the ethnicity section I put that I was Asian. I did that for about a week and monitored the number of hits I got. And after that I changed that ethnicity section to read “other” or “mixed race” or whatever it was and I noticed there was a remarkable increase in the number of hits I received. The reason that I wanted to do that was because of the experience that I’ve had being a person of color in the gay community, especially in a community that’s used to facing discrimination. You go to online sites like that and there are people out there who outright will say that they do not date Asian guys or they do not date black guys or whatever it is. And I understand preference and that people have certain preferences but when it comes to race, race is such a huge qualifier, that how can you possibly determine what a group of people look like or what you’re attracted to in a group of people, when in reality you haven’t met the whole population in that group.

Living in the society we live in today and being gay and having to face that level of discrimination, and then having to face that discrimination again within the community, it’s just one of those things where you think that, it’s 2009 and something like that doesn’t happen anymore, but it definitely does.”
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Super Junior-M 슈퍼주니어-M 「Super Girl」

Posted on September 25, 2009 commentaires

Super Junior-M 「Super Girl」 (Korean Version) - sorti le 25 septembre 2009.

Il sont chics les Super Junior-M ! Un morceau aussi efficace que「Sorry, Sorry」.
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2AM 투에이엠 & 2PM 투피엠 「Dirty Eyed Girls」

Posted on September 14, 2009 commentaires

La parodie des 2AM & 2PM (One Day) du 「Abracadabra」 des Brown Eyed Girls sous-titrée par Azn-Addicted. C'est con, mais qu'est-ce que c'est drôle ! Hi hi hi !

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f(x) 에프엑스 「LA chA TA」

Posted on September 01, 2009 commentaires

f(x) 에프엑스 「LA chA TA」【라차타】- released on September 01, 2009.

f(x) 에프엑스
Official Website (South Korea): http://fx.smtown.com/
Official Website (Japan): http://www.fx-jp.jp/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fx.smtown

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Vivian Luu 「When it’s stifling to be out: Gay Asian American men say cultural values keep them from coming out」

Posted on July 30, 2009 commentaires
Jason Lee, 24, will openly tell you that he’s gay. You may have met him while he was tanning at Madison Beach. He’s not afraid to tell you that his boyfriend’s name is Adyceum Carri and that he loves going to Neighbours, a gay club on Capitol Hill.

However, his mom doesn’t know that he’s gay. Neither does anyone else in his family besides his closest cousin. Lee said it is uncommon to be gay in Taiwan. He says his mom constantly asks him if he has a girlfriend in the United States.

“I feel my mother will cut my [financial] support,” Lee said, adding that he would not be able to study accounting at Seattle University if his mother disowned him and refused to pay his tuition.

Lee’s fear is well-founded. As a volunteer for the Mpowerment Project, a west coast support program for gay and bisexual men, he has seen the kinds of things that can happen to teens and young adults when they come out to their families.

“They would get kicked out of their homes,” Lee said. “Because they’re young, they can’t always make enough money to support themselves. They end up having to offer sex for money.”

Paul Nguyen, 19, says that core Asian values can stifle a gay man’s ability to live happily.

Instead of knitting families together, Confucian values, which heavily stress patriarchy, tear families apart.

“You’re expected to live at home, go to school, get married, have kids, and have your parents live in your house,” Nguyen said. “Because I’m gay, I can’t follow that. It’s not the same. I won’t have those kids. I won’t have that wife.”

Fear of failing is prevalent in Asian culture. Nguyen said that when he was young, his parents made sure that he did everything correctly, without making mistakes.

He recalled when his parents bought a 100-year-old piano when his older sister, Patricia, started learning to play the piano. Nguyen was 7 years old. He broke a piano key one day while playing the instrument.

“Instead of hiring someone, my dad decided to fix it himself,” Nguyen said. “He made me sit down and watch him. He cursed and yelled at me. When he couldn’t fix it, he came over to me and kicked me in the head.”

The experience, Nguyen said, made him feel that he would suffer if he didn’t do everything correctly. Being gay is no exception.

“I thought if my parents ever found out [I was gay], I would get disowned,” Nguyen said.

Nguyen’s parents did find out that he was gay. Nguyen was caught inviting another male to come visit him at their house. He came clean when his parents asked him if he was gay. The incident was responsible for Nguyen going to a correctional facility.

“My mom started crying,” Nguyen said. “I started crying. My dad looked a little sad, and I could tell he was disappointed in me.”

Disappointment, said Jeremy, is the last thing he wants to bring to his parents. The 21-year-old requested his last name not be released, as his family does not know he is gay.

Jeremy said individuality is suppressed in Asian culture. People are expected to thrive in groups, so any deviation from established norms is considered taboo – including being gay.

According to Derick Medina, 28, parents who emigrated from an Asian country have a tougher time accepting homosexuality because their lifestyles there are very conservative. Ever-present, ever-watching governments also condemn homosexuality.

Jeremy said that all hell broke loose when his aunt found his e-mail on a website for gay, Asian men.

“My mom was crying, and she blamed herself for not having paid more attention to me and knowing the friends I hung out with,” he said. “She asked me if I was ‘normal.’”

Jeremy hasn’t completely come out to his parents because he doesn’t want the relationship he has with them to vanish.

“They are the people I love,” he said. “[But] they will abandon you, have bad thoughts about you, and say things against you [if they know you’re gay]. Losing them is the worst part that I can think of because you’ve shared so much with them.”

Instead of facing consequences, gay men would hide their sexual orientation from their families, Medina said.

“You can have a loving family and be very open to them. But even then, you can hide your darkest secrets from them. Being gay is often that secret.”

Vivian Luu can be reached at info@nwasianweekly.com.

Author: Vivian Luu/Date: July 30, 2009/Source: http://nwasianweekly.com/2009/07/when-it%E2%80%99s-stifling-to-be-out/

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2PM 투피엠『Vogue Girl』

Posted on July 28, 2009 commentaires

2PM pour『Vogue Girl』(juillet 2009).


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immi イミー 「Joe le taxi」

Posted on July 22, 2009 commentaires

immi 「Joe le taxi」 - extrait de『WONDER』sorti le 22 juillet 2009.

Ah les japonaises qui chante en français !
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Ayaka Ikio 壱岐尾彩花 「Get Out」


Ayaka Ikio 「Get Out」 - extrait de『GOSSIP』sorti le 22 juillet 2009.

Chinko×Chinko 「Get Out」 avec ses beats bourrins et ce clip tout fauché, qui ressemble à un pauvre live show de gogo dans une boîte glauque !
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Brown Eyed Girls 브라운 아이드 걸스 「Abracadabra」

Posted on July 19, 2009 commentaires

Brown Eyed Girls 「Abracadabra」 - extrait de『Sound G』sorti en juillet 2009.

Tiens ? Et si j'attachais mon connard de mec qui me trompe pour le faire exploser et filais avec ma bouche un ecsta love à ma pote qui se vernit les ongles des pieds ?
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BIGBANG 빅뱅『Arena Homme +』

Posted on June 30, 2009 commentaires

Boys band coréen + Terry + bananes... Hmm...

Les membres de BIGBANG photographiés par Terry Richardson dans l'édition de juin 2009 d'『Arena Homme +』! La classe ! On aurait pu espérer plus cul, mais bon, c'est quand même sympa comme d'habitude.



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SHINee 샤이니 「Juliette」

Posted on May 25, 2009 commentaires

SHINee 「Juliette」 - extrait de『Romeo』sorti le 25 mai 2009.

Ça sonne comme un Michael Jackson, non ?

SHINee 「Juliette」 - sorti le 29 août 2011 (deux ans plus tard, toujours aussi mignons !).
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SHINee 샤이니『Romeo』


Ah ! Évocation, évocation...

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APOTHEKE アポテケ 「Kawaiism」

Posted on May 13, 2009 commentaires

APOTHEKE 「Kawaiism」【かわいイズム】- from『GIFT』released on May 13, 2009.

TAKASAKI STUDIO 「Japanese Band “Apotheke” - Tour Opener 2014」 - posted on July 07, 2014

Official Website: http://apothekeworld.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Apothekeapotheke/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/apothekemusic
SoundCloud: https://soundcloud.com/apothekemusic
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/apotheke_official/
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Thao & The Get Down Stay Down 「Bag of Hammers」

Posted on May 01, 2009 commentaires

Thao & The Get Down Stay Down 「Bag of Hammers」 - from『We Brave Bee Stings And All』released on May 01, 2009 .

2nd video for 「Bag of Hammers」. Directed by Norman Foreman.

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Ken Takeuchi 「Queer&Asian」

Posted on April 25, 2009 commentaires
Director’s Statement
Having known I was gay while growing up in Japan in the ’70s, I was already aware that homosexuality was more accepted in the U.S. Idolizing White Hollywood stars like millions of queer Asians, I hatched my secret plan of becoming a foreign exchange student to the U.S., in search of my dream husband who was White, blonde, and blue.

Successfully convincing my parents, I was accepted into an exchange program in 1987. However, it was not going to be easy. First, the program enrolled me in a Catholic high school in Michigan, where I could absolutely not come out. Second, it was simply a torture being surrounded by beautiful White boys everyday. 4 years later, I finally came out to my college friends in Boston. But after a few bad relationships, I’ve fallen into a serious depression. I was struggling with not only my sexual identity, but also a racial one where I felt I could never be seen as attractive or desirable by White gay men.

When I discovered a peer-support organization, Boston Alliance of Gay & Lesbian Youth (BAGLY), I dived right into it. Listening to other queer youths of all colors sharing the same experience was not only enlightening, but also empowering. At BAGLY, it was also a tremendous shock and eye-opening experience when my best friend who was African American told me that being Asian in the U.S. meant I was considered “colored”. I was blind to my racial identity as an Asian, and had subconsciously erased my ethnic heritage in order to fit in and survive.

Upon graduation, I moved to New York where I found a job as an audio engineer in 1994. Although it was exciting and rewarding to live and work in NYC, my visa had expired and I was effectively stuck in the U.S. Adding to the stress of pressures at work, I was always in fear of being caught and deported. But living in NYC, I could also meet many other queer Asians and hear their stories of struggles. Slowly gaining my experience in video production, I was confident that I could someday document their stories and share our unique voice.

In 2000, my luck turned for the better. Thanks to the new provision of the Legal Immigration Family Equity Act, I was able to apply for adjustment of my status without leaving the country. After 5 years of intense paperwork, I finally received my permanent resident status in 2005. That’s when I began making a documentary on queer Asians in NYC.

In the years that followed, I’ve been volunteering as a steering committee member for Gay Asian & Pacific Islander Men of New York (GAPIMNY), one of the largest and most active queer Asian non-profit organizations in the U.S. Being on the cutting edge of social justice movement, I was not only able to gain understanding of complex layers of issues that queer Asians face in the U.S., but also meet people who are passionate about their cause.

The most important objective for this documentary is to ensure that our true stories and real voices are heard, in order to shed light upon the invisible community that is both thriving, yet most at risk. By following a day in a life of a gay Asian go-go dancer, the film will highlight the dangers of underground sex workers and their lack of HIV/AIDS awareness. By following queer South Asian immigrants, it will build a case on how the current U.S. immigration policy and Patriot Act continue to take away their civil rights. Weaving these personal stories with interviews from activists, experts and scholars in the field, the film will paint a clear picture of the gestalt of our collective lives in NYC, as well as why queer Asian community needs better understanding, visibility and support from general public. Now more than ever, it is imperative to raise our voices, where the issues of sexual minority intersect ethnic minority, so that queer Asians living in isolation can realize that it is beautiful to be queer and Asian.

Ken Takeuchi

Ken Takeuchi 「Queer&Asian」 Trailer - posted on April 25, 2009.

Author: Ken Takeuchi/Date: April 25, 2009/Source: http://www.queerandasian.com/?p=45
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Johannes Pong 「Boys on Film」

Posted on April 23, 2009 commentaires
Lu Yulai & Bernhard Bulling dans 「Soundless Windchime」

With local gay independent film 「Permanent Residence」 opening in theaters across town this week, Johannes Pong talks to three gay Hong Kong filmmakers about the state of queer cinema here.

Kit Hung
Hung’s first feature film 「Soundless Windchime」 is the first joint production between Switzerland and Hong Kong. The director is proud of the international reception so far received by the film, which has been lapped up by US and German filmgoers interested in the mixed-race relationships it portrays. But it took three years of asking around before anyone would originally give the film financial support. “Nobody wants to sponsor a director’s first feature production,” Hung laments. With such a low budget, Hung played the part of producer and director, not to mention babysitter and tour guide when filming on location in Switzerland.

Hung’s boyfriend is Swiss. They met on ICQ eight years ago and have been traveling between Asia and Europe ever since. Hung even became close to his boyfriend’d parents, although they shared no common tongue. “They spoke only German, so we communicated through body language, but the intimacy of our relationship cannot be described with speech.” So affected was Hung at their deaths that he turned to writing 「Soundless Windchime」 as a way of dealing with his grief. The film explores the concept of home while jumping through different times in the protagonist’s life, rather than following a linear time frame, an echo of the disjointedness Hung himself feels at times. “I feel different from my old friends, who have never left Hong Kong,” he says. “I was away in Chicago for five years, so SARS was in everyone’s collective memory but not mine.”

Now at 32, he finds gay activism in Hong Kong today rather impotent, perhaps because he was out and proud in the 90s, and as a 19-year-old, he was involved in queer politics and the local gay movement. His mentor was none other than media artist and queer activist Yau Ching, who was at the time an assistant professor at the Hong Kong Polytechnic University’s School of Design, where Hung studied. “She taught me everything I know about experimental video,” he says. From there, he went to the Chicago Art Institute for an MSA program, taking classes in multimedia and art history. It is the techniques he learned here that contribute to the artistic style of 「Soundless Windchime」.

「Soundless Windchime」 tells the story of a young mainland Chinese man whose Swiss lover in Hong Kong dies, whereupon he goes on a journey to Switzerland and meets another man with an all too familiar face.

Kit Hung 「Soundless Wind Chime」 Official Trailer - TLA Releasing - posted on April 23, 2010.

Scud has had many names throughout his life. Originally known as Ivan, before switching to Danny during his career in I.T, he eventually settled on “Scud,” a play on his Chinese name, which means “Soaring Cloud.” Born during the Cultural Revolution to a once-prominent Chinese family, Scud was raised by his grandmother whom he adored before moving to Hong Kong with his parents. As a teenager, he read in a newspaper the three Chinese words “same sex love,” and came to the realization that he was homosexual. “I felt lucky, special, actually, that I was kind of different.” Poverty-stricken, the young Scud was burdened with the task of supporting his family and upholding the family name, which he did, studying laboriously for 30 years. Only when his grandmother passed away did he feel that he could not live without fulfilling his own dreams, and in 2001, at 35 years of age, he moved to Australia for a bit of soul-searching. He then returned to Hong Kong and started Artwalker, an indie film company, and wrote and directed his first film, “City without Baseball,” a semi-documentary about Hong Kong’s baseball team, which garnered rave reviews from critics and become a cult classic.

His new film 「Permanent Residence」 is also part fiction, part non-fiction, with more than just a bit of his own life thrown in. Yet he reveals that the more dramatic elements from his real life had been toned down in the film to give them a sense of honesty. The director says that filming 「Permanent Residence」 saved his life. “If I didn’t make this film, I wouldn’t be here talking to you now, seriously.”

Although thankful for the women in his life, whom the filmmaker says have always taken care of him, he clearly appreciates the beauty of physical masculinity. 「Permanent Residence」 could easily have the most nudity of any Chinese film. Scud says he tricked the actors into stripping, and stripped himself for the photographic stills in a souvenir album. He openly confesses that it was a promotional stunt that satisfied his exhibitionist tendencies. “I’m 42 years old; I might as well strip naked now before I get any older.”

「Permanent Residence」 is the story of a man who passionately in love with an unavailable straight guy. It’s a tale every gay man can relate to.

Scud 「Permanent Residence」 Official Trailer - posted on February 10, 2011.

Simon Chung
Simon Chung was 10 when he moved to a small town in Canada and began to pay more attention to old, classic movies. When he watched Ingmar Bergman’s 「Persona」,” he realized that cinema wasn’t just about telling stories; it could also be a great medium to explore philosophical issues. Unlike Scud and Kit’s semi-autobiographical love stories interwoven with life and death, 「The End of Love」 explores two touchy topics in the gay community: drugs and prostitution. “I was inspired by a friend who worked as a prostitute part-time. I thought it was very interesting, how he balanced his freelance hustling and the relationship with his boyfriend,” says Chung. “I wanted to explore the concept of love, not just the ‘romantic’ version for heterosexual or homosexual couples, but you know, the love between a mother and son, between friends, and also the flipside of love, which is obsession and control.”

A lot of his own gay friends thought that his portrayal of the Hong Kong gay scene was just too dark and negative. “Of course it’s not representative of the whole scene, but as an indie filmmaker, I should have more opportunities to explore a minority’s point of view. I just wanted to show that side of society that people don’t want to acknowledge is there.”

Chung shies away from using gay actors in his films. “Homosexual actors might find the role too negative, or too sensitive, too personal,” he says. “As for straight actors, once they get over the kissing a man part, they’re usually fine with it and they have less baggage, than, say a gay actor, who might be thinking, am I misrepresenting? Am I being too sissy or too butch?” As a result, Chung finds straight actors end up more convinving in gay roles than gay actors.

For his next project, Chung is determined to move away from gay cinema. “I want to touch on more political and social themes.”

「End of Love」 (2008) is about a young gay man whose mother commits suicide after she learns of his homosexuality. The man turns to drugs to dull his pain, and soon begins to sell his body for cash. He’s sent to rehab where he meets a heroin addict, and they form a dangerous relationship.

Simon Chung 「End of Love」 (Trailer) - posted on March 12, 2010.

Author: Johannes Pong/Date: April 23, 2009/Source: http://hk-magazine.com/article/inside-hk/interviews/2862/boys-on-film
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「Being gay and Asian in America」

Posted on April 12, 2009 commentaires
What is “Gay” and “Asian”?

America has traditionally been called as the Melting Pot, where all kinds of people come for the hope of success, and subsequently these people contribute to diversity. However, the diversity can and has caused instability in this nation at the same time, because of tension among people with different identities. This tension is still causing distress to many of us who face racial and sexual prejudices on a regular basis.

This blog specifically caters to those who identify as both “gay” and “Asian” and who want to learn more about the relevant issues. This is not because the author intends to discriminate lesbians nor other races, but rather because this is the topic the author can best handle, as someone who identifies with these identities.

The “Asian” identity
The first and most important question would be: what is this “Asian” identity ? We come from different cultural backgrounds, even within a same ethnic group. Some Asian people are third-generation Chinese Americans who have resided in the SF bay area for almost hundred years. Some other Asian people just migrated from South Korea in their teens, because their parents decided that America is better for their education. Some are scholastic, and some are athletic. Some are adopted to white parents, and are identified as “banana” - yellow/Asian outside, white inside — by other Asians. Some want to maintain their authentic culture inherited from their ancestors.

Nonetheless, the identity is not just based on self-identification, but also on identification in the eyes of other people. Many times, identification in the eyes of the others outweigh self-identification. Therefore, in the eyes of the others, we are all classified into one “Asian” ethnic group. And this is created not only because of the white men’s gaze but also the gaze of other Asians on ourselves, and sometimes our own internalized stereotypes on our Asianness: what Asian men should be like.

Gay-Asian or Asian-gay?
While we cannot escape the “Asian” identity that is cast upon us by society, different people embrace their dual minority identities in different ways. The most important difference would be how people prioritize their dual minority identites. Here I want to draw an analogy to J.T. Sears in the article “Black-gay or gay-Black? Choosing identities and Identifying Choices.” For those who identify both as “gay” and “asian”, their priority can vary widely. Some of us have a very strong bond to the extended family-like network within the Asian community and think their sexuality merely pertains to who they choose to date. Some others consider their sexuality more important than their bonding to the Asian heritage. These differences are highlighted because this shows non homogeneity of gay/Asian dual identity.

Takagi, D. Y. (1996). 「Maiden Voyage: Excursion into Sexuality and Identity Politics in Asian America」. In R. Leong (Ed.) 「Asian American Sexualities. (pp. 21-36). New York: Routledge.
Sears, J. T. (1995). 「Black-gay or gay-Black? Choosing identities and Identifying Choices」. In G. Unks (Ed.) 「The gay teen: Educational practice and theory for lesbian, gay, and bisexual adolescents」. (pp. 135-157). New York: Routledge.

Gay Asian Masculinity

“We have free penis enlargement pills to give out ... nobody wants them? Any Asian man here? you know you need some!” — An unidentified host for porn company Raging Stallion Studios booth in 2006 S.F. civic center fair.

The ideal male sexuality in American society is described as a right amount of “masculinity”. This ideal masculinity oftentimes means a tall white muscular man with a big penis. In his article 「Looking for My Penis」, Richard Fung points out that Asian men are typecast into effeminacy, while Black men are typecast into hyper-masculinity. In this spectrum, the White male masculinity is assumed as the ideal amount of masculinity. Therefore, all Asian men are assumed to have a small penis, which can not threaten the white male masculinity. His article was written in 1996, but as seen in the quote above, the prejudice still prevails and surfaces itself freely in public sphere.

“Here we have an Asian boy with a small penis. He needs a well-endowed top who will show him a good time in bed tonight.” — An unidentified drag show host in 2008 in Raleigh, N.C.*

*The quote was modified and paraphrased to delete vulgar language.

What is the worth of a gay man who has a penis that cannot dominate another man by penile domination? To take a receptive role in anal sex would be the answer. Within this logic, all Asian men are therefore assumed to be the receptive role, regardless of their actual preferences.

Pretty depressing, isn’t it?

However, the efforts to break down the stereotype are slowly but surely changing the perception of the public. One of the most prominent efforts will be the annual calendar named 「Asian Men Redefined」. http://www.asianmenredefined.com/

Started in San Francisco in 2006, the calendar’s website claims that “It is time for Asian Men to strut their hot stuff and show the world that Asian Men are BOLDER, SMARTER, and SEXIER than ever before.”

Also featuring of masculine Asian male characters on television shows, such as 「Lost」, has presented a possibility of masculine gay Asian man to the nationwide TV audience. Yet, the battle is hardly won. Standing up against the stereotype is the only way to break down the stereotype that still exists in our society.

「Asian Men Redefined」. (2006 - 2009). retrieved from http://asianmenredefined.com/ April 12, 2009.
Fung, R. (1996). 「Looking for My Penis: The Eroticitized Asian in Gay Video Porn」. In R. Leong (Ed.) 「Asian American Sexualities」. (pp. 21-36). New York: Routledge.
Nguyen, H. (2006). 「Reflections on an Asian Bottom: Gay Asian American Masculinity and Sexual Representation」. Paper presented at the annual meeting of the American Studies Association . 2009-02-04 from http://www.allacademic.com/meta/p114659_index.html

Dating and Mating

“Like the stereotypical Asian, I prefer to date Caucasian men.” — a 25-year-old Asian American man quoted in Tsang’s article

Men who identify with gay and Asian identities in America face a different, if not more difficult, challenge in dating and mating than those with gay and White do. Ethnicity plays an important role in intercultural dating and mating, oftentimes creating emotional distress.

“Ethnicity: caucAsian”
In 1996, D. C. Tsang wrote an article 「Notes on Queer ‘N’ Asian Virtual Sex」. The article describes an on-line gay Bulletin board, which catered to men of all races. He mentions an interesting case where one Taiwanese American man changed his ethnicity in his profile to White on a whim and suddenly found himself tremendously more desired by other gay men on the board, with everything else on the profile being the same.

This phenomenon can be explained if we consider that the criteria of masculinity in our society are set to that of White men, and therefore White men in the dating and mating competition are considered more desirable.

In this environment, certain gay men feel like they are “Accidental[ly] Asians” — they claim that they are gay men who only happen to be Asian (Yoshino, 2006). This is somewhat similar to gay-Asian/Asian-gay difference; which identity is more important? (Refer to 「What is “gay” and “Asian”?」 section) They claim that they have no difference in their mannerism from the mainstream white people, other than their skin color. So why should they care about their ethnicity?

Ironically, these gay Asian men’s claim about their conformity proves that the topic of ethnicity is unavoidable. As they said, they are part of the white mainstream culture. However, they are not treated so in the realm of dating and mating. If they were, they would not have had to reclaim their conformity. Although blatant racism in this country has decreased over time, no matter how hard they try to “pass” as part of the white mainstream, they are not.

On the other hand, there are white men who are predominantly attracted to Asian men: they are called Rice Queens. Tsang quotes a short-lived print newsletter, Daisuki-Men, on the reason why these white men have a strong attraction to Asian men.

  1. China Doll syndrome (i.e., Asian males are seen as feminine)
  2. perception that Asians are submissive;
  3. and the rice queens’ obsession with [all] things Asian

Richard Fung argues in his article 「Looking for My Penis」 that, even when certain rice queens seek out masculine Asian men, they find them attractive because of the rice queens’ obsession with Asian things. Fun claims that these rice queens are fantasizing about the Asian martial arts masters when they seek out for masculine Asian men.

However, Fung’s article and Tsang’s article were published in 1996. Do these assumptions still hold true in 2009? Unfortunately, the old habits die hard, and as can be seen from the section 「Gay Asian Masculinity」, the only way for the situation in dating and mating for men who identify as gay and Asian is to stand against various stereotypes that are set on Asian men. Until then, the therapists need to understand the degree of distress which these prejudices cause to men who identify as gay and Asian.

Asian man and another Asian man, problem solved?
Then, when two Asian men date each other, do all the issues in dating and mating suddenly go away? That is not the case. The term “Asian” covers many countries in the Asian continent. Northeast Asians — Chinese, Korean, Japanese people — are drastically different from Southeast Asians — Filipinos, Vietnamese and Laotians, let alone Indians who are occasionally included in the broad “Asian” people. Further, Each country has a very unique culture. For example, a Korean Asian man and a Japanese Asian man might still experience ethnic and cultural differences that can cause emotional distress.

Tsang, D. C. (1996). 「Notes on Queer ‘N’ Asian Virtual Sex」. In R. Leong (Ed.) 「Asian American Sexualities」. (pp. 21-36). New York: Routledge.
Yoshino, K. (2006). 「Covering: The Hidden Assault on Our Civil Rights」. New York: Random House.
Fung, R. (1991). 「Looking for My Penis: The Eroticitized Asian in Gay Video Porn」. In R. Leong (Ed.) 「Asian American Sexualities」. (pp. 21-36). New York: Routledge.

Coming Out to Family

For someone who identifies with both gay and Asian identities, coming out to his family can be a very stressful thing. Asian American families tend to stand on the liberal side of the political spectrum, but their family-oriented ideologies are centered around heterosexual families. Asian families tend to put a great amount of expectations on their son, and this high expectation oftentimes means to get married to a woman and have a family of their own — with biological children.

The stressful situation goes the other way as well; for the parents and other family members, finding out that their child and sibling is gay can be a very stressful thing. His family has to go through the process of dealing with their internalized homophobia and their prejudices toward LGBT people, in addition to homophobia in our society (Hom, 1996).

... Mommy thinks everybody [is] a little bit gay. You have a friend, and you like your friend so much you don’t know what to do. It’s kind of gay ... especially in college, it’s a very gay time. So many gays in college, You know, daddy had a friend like that. I will tell you a gay story about your daddy [when he was in Korea] ... — Margaret Cho on her mother and father

Many first-generation Asian Americans have a prior knowledge on homosexuality which they acquired before they came to the United States. They are, however, not as used to the idea of open homosexuality in society as most white families have come to be. This is mostly because of the amount of exposure the white families had beforehand since 1960’s sexual liberation movement.

Another important factor is that Asian families tend to save up financial resources for college education of their children. This means that the independence of the gay Asian man oftentimes comes later than most white gay men. Also, the interdependence among the relatives in Asian American families sometimes means that the parents and siblings are more sensitive to the criticisms of the family relatives, and therefore the family also has to deal with the prejudices which their relatives express.

The most important thing to remember is that finding a right time to come out is completely up to the person who wants to express and share his sexuality with his family. If he thinks he or his family is not ready for the coming out, then it will be better if the coming out process is postponed until the right time surfaces, whether it be a time of his financial independence or the family members’ change in attitude toward homosexuality.

Hom, A. Y. (1996). 「Stories from the Homefront: Perspectives of Asian American Parents with Lesbian Daughters and Gay Sons」. In R. Leong (Ed.) 「Asian American Sexualities」. (pp. 37-50). New York: Routledge.

Clinical Approach

APA’s guideline to counsel LGBT clients include the following statement;

Guideline 9. Psychologists are encouraged to recognize the particular life issues or challenges experienced by lesbian, gay, and bisexual members of racial and ethnic minorities that are related to multiple and often conflicting cultural norms, values, and beliefs (American Psychological Association, 2009).

However, simple recognition of the life issues and challenged experienced by people with multiple minorities is not sufficient to provide a clinical help to the clients when the therapists have no background knowledge on what other men who identify as gay and Asian go through in this country. In this blog, I have discussed about the dual identity issues. gay Asian men’s masculinity issues. dating and mating. and coming out to family issues. The common factor that affects all these issues is the marginalized status of men who identify as gay and Asian, who are discriminated from other Asian Americans for being gay and from the LGBT community for being Asian.

Narrative Therapy to Understand
In this situation, a narrative therapy is always a good idea to know better about what the client has experienced as a man who identifies as both gay and Asian. As shown in the section 「What is “gay” and “Asian”?」 each person identifies with their dual minority identities in a different way, because his life story inevitably differs from that of others. Although I talked about gay Asian masculinity, not all gay/Asian men want to be masculine, nor not all gay/Asian men want to date white/gay men. Listening to his life story is the way to understanding where he is coming from.

Finding the Support
Of course, there is no way that therapists can have a perfect knowledge for every single minority’s issues. However, they can provide the clients with resources where the clients can find information they need. Unless the client is in a major metropolitan area with a big Asian American population, such as Los Angeles, San Francisco, Atlanta or New York city, it is difficult to find a local support group for men who identify as both gay and Asian. We are, however, blessed in a time of the Internet, and providing internet resources to your client can help them reassured that they are not alone, and there has been decades of research done on men who identify as both gay and Asian in America.

American Psychological Association. (2009). 「Guidelines for Psychotherapy with Lesbian, Gay, & Bisexual Clients」. 2009-01-08. from http://www.apa.org/pi/lgbc/guidelines.html. retrieved on 2009-04-15

Further Information
Asian & Pacific Islander Wellness Center: Gay Men: http://www.apiwellness.org/gaymen.html
Asian Pacific Parents, Families, Friends of Lesbians and Gays: http://www.pflag.gapsn.org/
Gay Asian & Pacific Islander Men of New York: http://www.gapimny.org/
Gay Asian Pacific Alliance in San Francisco: http://www.gapa.org/
Gay Asian Pacific Support Network in Los Angeles: http://www.gapsn.org/
Human Rights Campain Website: Asian Pacific Americans: http://www.hrc.org/issues/3600.htm

Author: Bobby/Date: April 12, 2009/Source: http://sxl120.blogspot.fr/
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Jason Tseng 「Fried Rice: A Failed Attempt at Subverting Sexual Racism」

Posted on April 09, 2009 commentaires
Fried Rice: A Failed Attempt at Subverting Sexual Racism; pt. I

I’ve been called a lot of things in my life. The standard pejoratives come to mind: faggot, Cocksucker, Chink... Commie chink. Although I took that last one more of a compliment, than anything else. But easily the most painful name came not from the homophobic jock or the drunken frat boy... It came from a lover.

It came tangled between bed sheets; heads buzzing with the freedom afforded by alcohol, he whispered softly in my ear, “You’re perfect. My perfect little geisha boy.” To this day, those words, which I’m sure were intended to make me feel treasured and beautiful, continue to haunt me.

Now, I have had my fair share of racially skewed relationships. In fact every substantial romantic relationship I’ve had has been with a rice queen. I had grown accustomed to questions asking where I’m from. Seeing their confused faces after I tell them “Washington D.C.,” I have learned to always qualify this with “but my family is from China.” I see their disappointment in learning that I don’t speak my “native tongue,” or that I have never been “back.”

I had even become desensitized to the inane guessing games they would employ to infer my ethnicity. “Yeah, I get Korean a lot. It’s my face,” is my rote response.

I found myself feeling less like a person and more of an idea; an amalgam of expectations; a blur of tawny skin and slanted eyes. I had gotten to the point where when I walk into a bar, I immediately gauged myself against the other Asians in the room, because I know it is by this criteria on which I will be judged. They are not my friends, my comrades, my brothers in arms. They are my competition. They are the enemy.

At once I am caught in a vice of being required to captivate my prospects with my overt displays of ethnicity, yet cut off from those whom share this oppressive experience. Unable to form alliances for fear of cannibalizing our market, we are divided and conquered by the inevitability of economics.

I eventually reached an impasse; the proverbial back-breaking straw where I realized that I could no longer live in this colonial schema of rice queen and exotic object of affection. But in all of my personal and romantic experience, men who like Asian guys but are not rice queens either did not exist, or required too much vetting to be viable romantic prospects.

I realized a fundamental flaw in my equation: if we, gay Asians, continued to entrust gay white men with the keys to our eventual happiness, they would inevitably fail us. They are born into a culture in which systemic racism encourages widespread subjugation of nonwhite people.* Of course there are a select few who are able to resist this pervasive culture of appropriation and wholesale theft. But attempting to seek these individuals out, using our hearts as collateral, is simply too costly. I reasoned that the only truly revolutionary thing to do was to renounce the world of rice queens and go sticky rice. What a novel thought, gaysians dating gaysians.

I would renounce the code of beauty which casts us as undesirable, small-dicked, pansy geishas, incapable of fucking or owning our agency. Rather I would seek to escape the fundamentally imbalanced politic of inter-racial relationships, and find happiness in a world free from racial power disparity: with those of my own race.

to be continued...

*NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR: This post has been edited from its original form in response to the dynamic and spirited debate that has been drawn out from the Bilerico community. If you would like to read the original text, feel free to find it at Belowthebelt.org, which has retained the original text as a historical record.
(Crossposted to www.belowthebelt.org)

Fried Rice: A Failed Attempt at Subverting Sexual Racism, pt. 2

Editors’ note: Part 1 in Jason Tseng’s series on racism and dating was posted in April.

It is New Year’s Eve in New York City, and “new” is definitely the word du jour. It’s a night of many firsts: My first New Year’s in the City; my first New Year’s with friends and not family; my first New Year’s drunk. My roommate has dragged me to a party being thrown by his rich boyfriend and his equal parts loud, drunk, and obnoxious friends. The Bridge and Tunnel crowd pack the SoHo brownstone to the brim as they clamor for more alcohol at the open bar. Not even the disdainfully privileged surroundings of Yuppie excess could quell this feeling of anticipation and excitement at the prospect of a new year, a page turned, a fresh slate. As I said my farewells to 2008, I bade adieu to the Bush Administration, to my life as a student, to unemployment, and... to the last link in my long chain of relationships with Rice Queens.

2009 promised to be a year full of opportunity, driven by my personal mandate to initiate the Sticky Revolution: an act of radical anti-racism by rejecting colonialism and supporting my community of fellow Gay Asian men through deliberate valorization of a de-valued and disenfranchised group. Asians dating Asians – the quintessential “f- you” to Euro-centric beauty standards and fetishists. We don’t need your validation, mainstream gay culture. We are a self-sustaining nation of queer Asian fierceness! And we don’t need nor want your approval.

Filled with the vigor imbued by my quest for racial justice, I set out to find my partner-in-crime, my brother-in-arms, my comrade, my fellow radical queer Asian freedom fighter. I ditch the SoHo party and made my way to one of my regular haunts, a gay bar in Hell’s Kitchen. Into the mouth of the lions’ den, I thought to myself as I flashed my ID to the bouncer. Not five minutes into wading through this very standard gay bar for the young, the white, and the restless, I found myself deflecting the attention of two bar regulars. White, skinny, and pretty; the pair always seems to be there when I show up. Tweedle-Dee and Tweedle-Dum always insist on greeting me with a high pitched “Clarence!” Clarence, I eventually discovered, is their Asian roommate to whom I allegedly bear a resemblance. Clearly, we are the same person, interchangeable, and therefore it is completely acceptable to call us by the same name.

Undeterred, I made my way to the dance floor. Sweaty and numbingly loud, I started moving to the music, trying to lose myself in it. Having devoted a good portion of my college career to dance, I have always viewed the act as a profoundly cathartic experience. What better place to excise my past self than the heart of the malfeasance? Then, like some cheesy scene in one of those insufferable dance flicks, our eyes meet through the crowd.

He is tall, handsome, and Asian. With a strange sense of fate, the crowd parts allowing us to meet. No words are spoken at first, we just dance. (Yes, I am aware of how corny this is... stay with me, I promise it’s worth it.) I eventually get his name (Tim), and his number. We dance for a while before parting. I leave the bar that night filled with pride. I have taken the first steps in my Sticky Revolution.

Fast forward a month, and Tim and I have been dating for a few weeks. He’s a former soldier, Filipino-American from Upstate New York. He grew up and army brat and followed in his father’s footsteps in joining the army. He served for several years in Korea and elsewhere before receiving an injury which disqualified him from service. Discharged honorably, he found himself in New York City, sleeping on a friend’s couch and trying to make ends meet with a job bar bussing. He’s funny, refreshingly different from me, and on top of it all, he’s quite the looker. Almost too good-looking. I don’t believe my luck! I’m by no means top-tier in the looks department, so bagging the hot Asian-American army-vet-turned-artist seems all too perfect. My Sticky Revolution had started off without a hitch! Or so I thought...

It’s late and we’re on one of our usual dates: a bar crawl. He likes to dance and easily becomes bored, so I constantly find myself hopping from one club to the next, in pursuit of that increasingly evasive good vibe. The date hasn’t gone particularly well. It’s the first time we’ve gone out with my friends, and he’s been distant all night. Disappearing for ten, fifteen minutes at a time, chatting up other guys in front of me, acting very dismissive of my presence; I’m taken aback by the change in his character. My friend who joined us earlier in the night informs me that he’s trying to make me jealous and want him more: ensuring that I know that being with him is a privilege, not a right. I’m in a sour mood and he can tell. As we sit in the cab on the way to our next destination he asks me a question on a topic I have been dreading: race.

“So, what kind of guys do you usually go for?” comes the thinly veiled inquisition on my racial preferences. Heck, I’ve used that line when I try and sniff out fetishists. Isn’t it enough that I’m clearly into you?! I think to myself.

“Oh, you know... I don’t know, I don’t really have a type. It’s more about a guy’s personality that I’m attracted to.” I respond, attempting to dodge the question.

He presses further, “No, but you’ve gotta have a type. Tell me about your exes. I don’t know anything about them.”

Who is this guy? Exes are the last thing I want to be talking about. “Well...” I pause, considering how to bring up my problematic dating history, “My type is kind of all over the place. I’ve dated a lot of different kinds of guys.” I can tell by the look in his eyes this is an unsatisfactory answer, “I used to date a lot of rice queens, but I’m kind of done with white guys for now.”

As the words leave my mouth, I want to stuff them back inside.

“Oh, so is that what this is about?” He asks almost with a snicker, as if he knows that he’s caught me in some kind of trap. “Are you just going to go back to white guys after you’re done with me?”

I can hardly believe this is happening. The same paranoia I felt when dating white men, was being aimed squarely back at me. What could I say? In some way, yes, I sought out Tim because of his race. It proved to be an important quality in my search for a relationship free from racial tension and power imbalance. I had never been with an Asian guy, and it was an experience I had avoided for too long. I have always viewed having a healthy attraction to Asian men was a way for me to personally find beauty in myself; but it was far from the most defining part of his identity I was attracted to. I thought that I was doing something good: radically resisting a racist society by celebrating what the hegemonic culture discards and abhors. But with the tables suddenly turned, had I become everything that drove me to this point?

Moreover, is this part of the self-hatred that has been ingrained in our Asian American minds? The idea of dating another Asian guy seems to require some cognitive leap, some justification, for seeking out a relationship with an Asian man. Do white people have this dilemma when approached with prospective partner of the same race? Do white people question whether their white partner’s desires for them is motivated by race?

This would be the last time I would see Tim. To this day I wonder what spurred his comments. I had never mentioned his race while we dated. Nor had I discussed my personal divorce from the colonial schema of the rice queen. Was he responding to some unspoken offense I had committed? Had he dated Asian men before me? Was this uncharted territory for him as well? I can’t help but wonder if perhaps we were both more alike than either of us realized. Driven apart by our mutual suspicions.

to be continued...?

Originally posted at belowthebelt.org

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Jason Tseng
Official Website: http://www.jasontseng.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/queeriously

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Super Junior 슈퍼주니어 「Sorry, Sorry」 teaser

Posted on March 12, 2009 commentaires

Super Junior 「Sorry, Sorry」 - sorti le 12 mars 2009.
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Sowelu ソエル 「Material World」

Posted on February 25, 2009 commentaires

Sowelu 「Material World」 - sorti le 25 février 2009.

Produit par m-flo.
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Ajoo 아주 「Wealthy 2nd Generation」

Posted on February 07, 2009 commentaires

"Salut, je suis 19 ans et j'ai six-pack !"

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Moye Ishimoto 「Breaking News: Jason Wu Is Gay!」

Posted on January 28, 2009 commentaires
Courtesy Hugo Boss

Also, the sky is blue.

Competitor blog Jezebel (I say competitor because we’re up against them for Best Group Blog in the 2008 Bloggies – please vote for us!) reported yesterday that Jason Wu was upset that the big『New York Times』article published recently outed him to his Taiwanese family.

The 26 year old designer made headlines after Michelle Obama chose his dress for her Inaugural ball gown. Yes, he’s Asian and yes, we already cheered him on.

The tipster explains that he overheard Wu saying that while his parents knew he is gay, some of his other relatives did not, and that the frank revelation has caused some awkward conversations. The tipster says the Taiwan-born designer’s parents were “disappointed” their son couldn’t have been more “discreet.”

Scandalous!!! OMG!!! How could you, esteemed『New York Times』! Though the reporter now claims that Wu allowed him to write about his boyfriend and their relationship, I can’t help but wonder if people are just looking for gossip fodder. And is that really Wu’s concern right now? The First Lady donned his beautiful gown, and now he unfortunately has to face awkward conversations with his aunts and uncles? I seriously doubt that he would be truly upset with something like this.

Here’s what I’m more concerned about. How did this family NOT know Jason was gay? He’s in fashion, he designs couture gowns for Barbie dolls, including one specifically for RuPaul and he even admitted to crying while watching 「Milk」.

My gaydar is sounding off pretty loudly right now.

Hey, Wu family. Welcome to 2009. Your son is gay. He’s also going to be one of the most sought-after fashion designers this year. Cry me a river.

On the upside, these articles led to a fun conversation about 8Asian bloggers coming out of the closet to their more traditional families. I think these are awesome, so feel free to share your stories, too!

Moye Ishimoto
I am a Japanese-American girl who was born, raised and is most probably stuck in traffic right this second in Los Angeles. I'm currently one of the co-editors of 8Asians and like to distract myself with good food, reading long books, playing video games, catching up on celebrity news, choosing my new new haircut and then writing all about it on Hello Moye and sometimes here on Twitter if I can get it in under 140 words or less. You can reach me at moye[at]8asians.com.

Author: Moye Ishimoto/Date: January 28, 2009/Source: http://www.8asians.com/2009/01/28/breaking-news-jason-wu-is-gay/

Moye Ishimoto
Official Website: http://hellomoye.com/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/moye

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