Erin Chew 「Why do Gay WHITE Men say NO to Asian Men?」

Posted on April 04, 2016
As Asian women, we are at no shortage of WHITE men wanting to friend us on Facebook or following us on Instagram and Twitter. Many are actually quite bold and will send you a love note or a message thinking that it will capture your heart. And this is not restricted to just the world of cyberspace. Go into any club, pub or party venue and sure enough you will see WHITE men wanting to buy you a drink or take you to somewhere a little more private.

Wong Fu Productions 「Yellow Fever (2006) - Re-Release Official」 - posted on January 28, 2010.

Now I am not going to go into the theory behind yellow fever (the other side of sexual racism), and of course it does not apply to every WHITE guy, but one thing is for sure, there are no shortages of WHITE men who desire the company and intimacy of an Asian woman. But where this can become a problem for us Asian women, because we feel creeped out by WHITE men, gawking, staring and even approaching us, an opposite phenomenon is happening in the gay world.

It seems that in the world of gay dating, there are no qualms about being a sexual racist. Just take a look at the dating apps such as Tinder or Grindr. WHITE gay men are more than happy to set their requirements, and most of it is extremely racist. How is it acceptable to state No Rice, No Spice, No Asians or No Chopstick or curry. Does it not occur to gay WHITE men, that to make these types of idiotic blanket statements is extremely discriminatory? Or are they just so daft because they feel white privilege will allow them to say as they please? Whatever the reason, it is unacceptable and disgusting at all levels.

Talking to some of my Asian brothers, most have resigned to the idea that sexual racism has gone on for too long and there is no point in really calling this out. And apparently, if you do call them out, these WHITE gay men will deny they are being racist, but that Asians are not their preference. How absurd is it, that defining your sexual requirements on racial lines does not make you racist. As a straight Asian woman who is subjected to the yellow fever phenomenon, I can’t imagine how demoralising this type of sexual racism is towards Asian men, and how helpless this situation is.

So the irony here is that the gay community still faces extreme discrimination and marginalisation at a mainstream level, but within themselves they feel its okay to be a sexual racist. How does this advance the cause when it is WHITE gay men driving the car and using the superiority to make others feel bad? I don’t think this sexual racism is as bad in the lesbian and transgender circles, but I definitely know that our Asian brothers deal with a lot of shit from WHITE men.

But when we talk about sexual racism, straight Asian women and gay Asian men experience this at different levels. Where the demure, petite and sweet Asian woman is desirable for straight WHITE men, an Asian man becomes the scum at the bottom of the barrel for WHITE men. Two contrasting definitions of sexual racism but both can be just as bad as the other. Within the straight world, we have recently just seen the Subway man, Jared Fogle get arrested for his pedophilic craving for teenage Asian women, and within the gay world, we constantly hear stories of Asian men being rejected or being subjected to sexual violence.

It is a wonder why these dating apps have allowed this bullshit to go on for so long. It is to a point where it is almost not worth the fight, because it has been accepted as a norm or a preference. But I think maybe the tides are changing slowly. Doing a quick search online I found various blog and websites dedicated to calling out and name and shame these WHITE racists. Where this is a passive approach it seems to be a movement which is growing.

Also, it seems that finally Grindr has kind of caught on to this issue, and are putting in some controls to stamp out this racism. They plan to put in filters to allow the user to see what they want to see therefore eliminating the need to be offensive. But this is just a filter and it does not stop the racism which will and still exists. Talking to my Asian brothers, the only way to combat this is to raise our voices and call this out at a mainstream level, and demanding changes and more education that saying No Asians or No rice, no spice, is not a preference but is pure and simple RACISM.

So to all the WHITE gay men, who still feel superior after reading this, let me ask you this:

Is it too much to ask to not be a racist? Why can’t you just define attraction and love to the physique, emotion and feelings? Why even go on a pathetic rampage against our Asian brothers? Does it make you feel good and give you a sense of superiority to treat our Asian brothers this way? Maybe it does, and maybe it feeds your ego, but I am going to issue you all a warning because that is how I roll, so please listen carefully.....

If You Offend my Asian Brothers, You Offend All Asians Everywhere, and we will find you and we will re-educate you, till you recognise what you are doing is RACIST.

OnisionSpeaks 「Why Are Asians Rejected By LGBT? (Gay Men Saying "No Asians")」 - posted on May 28, 2015.

Author: Erin Chew/Date: April 04, 2016/Source: